Category: Male Sexuality

It is December 2021, and I have been drifting around a mall for a while without speaking to anyone. Then I see a woman who sets something off in me the moment I notice her, and this time I walk over. I slow down. I hold eye contact. I give her one compliment, small and…

If you’ve found your way to the word oneitis, you already know its shape from the inside. There is one woman, and beside her everyone else goes flat. What you feel around her doesn’t happen with anyone else, and you’ve taken that as proof of something about her: she’s the one, and nobody after her…

A cousin at a wedding asks if you’re seeing anyone, and the count runs before you can answer: fifteen years of being old enough, and not one girlfriend. You tell her work has been busy. Later that night you type “never had a girlfriend at 35” into a search bar, half hoping the results will…

You see her from twenty feet away and something in you picks a direction: talk to her. Two steps later you’re past her, feet still moving, and there was no moment in between where you chose to keep walking instead. You just did. Why do I freeze around girls I like? is the question you…

You’ve read the term death grip syndrome by now. Years of finishing fast and hard on one specific grip, and now nothing else gets you anywhere close: not a partner’s hand, not your own lighter touch on a slow night. You’ve started to wonder if you trained damage into your own body that can’t be…

Confidence with women is a state you are in, and the state decides whether you move. It has very little to do with how many women you have spoken to or how well last month went. It runs on how you feel in the minute the chance is standing in front of you, and when…

Every page that promises to shorten refractory period hands you the same four fixes: do Kegels, exercise, try an ED medication, or wait it out. Scroll past the headline on half of them and you’ll find the admission sitting there in the middle of the page, that pelvic-floor training has no real evidence behind it…

You’ve read the standard list by now. Get her to use her hands for a while. Think about something else. Try a numbing spray, a thicker condom, or the squeeze technique the moment things get close.

Edge for twenty minutes. Do three to five edges before you let yourself finish. It reads like a protocol, precise enough to trust. You’ve probably followed something close to it and still ended up guessing.

Contract your urethral sphincter and draw upward, as if pulling the stream back into your body. Keep practicing, most sources on vajroli mudra claim, and you can pull ejaculate back in and reabsorb it instead of losing it.